Dear Wonderful Readers,
What is your biggest dream?
“If you can dream it, you can do it.”~Walt Disney
I would like to share a story with you.
Once there was a little seven years old Thai girl who dreamed of living in the USA. People laughed at her when she shared her dreams because it was ridiculous to others. She was growing up with poverty. Sometime she did not even have food to eat. She grew up starving. There was no way that the dream of that little girl would come true from other people's perspective. Nothing stopped that little girl to keep on dreaming. When she was 18, she kept dreaming that one day she could be able to speak English so that she could meet with an American man. People around her looked down on her ability to graduate from college. Nothing stopped that young, determined woman. She studied English in college and graduated within three and a half year. Her dream was to be able to speak English so that one day she could meet with her dream man and be able to communicate. When she was 25, she met an American man. She fell in love with him. They got married, had two beautiful children and lived happily ever after until he passed away five years after marriage. (He died 10 years ago and left her with 2 small children...)
The girl in this story was me. My point of telling you this story was to encourage you to dream big. Don't worry about what other people think of you. Don't worry about how ridiculous your dream is. Don't worry about how you are going to achieve it. The most important key is to really know what you truly want, believe in yourself, keep dreaming, focus on what you want, and take actions. The universe will respond to what you. You have to be very clear, specific, determined, and focused.
If you want to find your Ideal Life Partner, you will find that special someone. When you look for him/ her, that person is also searching for you!
The following steps can be applied in any area of your life. It works for me and many people. I get what I want; husband, kids, home, car, job, and friendship. If this can happen to me, it can happen to you too!
Here are some tips on getting what you want.
1.Be crystal clear and specific for what you want
2.Let go of your limiting beliefs
3.Dream big
4.Set Goals
5.Take actions
6.Believe in yourself
7.Be determined and focused on your goal
8.Be detached from the outcome (Focus on your goal. Trust the Divine Spirit to bring you for what you need. If you don't get what you want, it means that it is not meant to be for you. Let it go. Set another goal. There is someone or something greater and the best is yet to come your way!)
9.Enjoy the process
10.Expect miracles!
Here are some inquiries for you:
1.What is your biggest dream right now; dream job, home, place to live, weight, partner, etc.?
2.What is stopping you from getting what you want?
3.What is your action plan?
4.Who are you being? Are you being positive or negative? Are you being optimistic or pessimistic? Are you being motivated or discouraged?
5.What attitude are you having?
6.How committed are you to pursue your dream?
7.What is your next small step to do in order for you to achieve what you want?
Have a great week!
Until next time...
Love,
Pichaya
Sunday, July 17, 2011
"No Money, No Honey" Is That True?
Dear Wonderful Readers,
Since I was a eighteen, I have heard this quote very often from my male friends. From my personal experience, I am convinced that “No money, no honey” is not true. I have seen a millionaire who is not happy with his life and has no honey. I have seen many men who have no money, but have their honey. Their honey stay with them through good time and bad time. There is such thing call “no money, but have got honey.”
I would love to share with you about my story. This happened in 1995 in Thailand. I met with an American man who I had always dreamed of. I wanted to have an American boyfriend. There he was. We met and fell in love. Then, I asked him to marry me. This might sound strange that a woman asked a man to marry her. Anyway, I did. I asked him to marry me because I loved him and wanted him. Here was what he said “I don’t have money. I don’t have a home in America. I have nothing. I am fat. I am poor. I am old.” He was 12 years older than me. He was over 200 lbs. I said “I don’t care about what you say to yourself. I love you just the way you are. I don’t care you are poor. What I want is you.” He said “I am scared.” He was afraid that I would leave him for someone who had more money. I said “If you love me, that is more than enough. We can survive.” We had that conversation for a long time. Until one day he accepted my proposal. My love was stronger than his fear.
That was not the end of the story. As a Thai woman living in Thailand, in our culture, I must have had an approval from my parents. There was dowry required. The value of a woman depends on how much money a groom would offer to the parents of the bride. Well, my groom at the time had no money. I spoke with my parents. Of course they wanted the dowry that my groom did not have. My father said to me “I will not go to your wedding. You are not my daughter. If you are going to get married with an American, why don’t you get married with someone who had a lot of money.” My groom had nothing, but himself, and I did not care. I wanted his heart and I loved him deeply. Nothing stopped me from being with the man I loved. I decided to have our wedding at a Thai temple without the dowry and without my dad that day. My mother, grandmother, sisters, relatives, and a few friends came to our wedding though which was great.
I did the right thing because I followed my heart. I broke the rule of the Thai society. I left Thailand to the unknown to be with my husband in America. We never had a house. We rented someone’s room. We were homeless a couple times. One time while walking along a street in California, he sang this song “Even though we ain’t got money, I’m so in love with you honey. Everything will bring a chain of love…” All we had was 2 pennies in his pocket. That was it. Yes, we had 2 pennies; no home, no car, no money in the bank account, no credit card, nothing but the love that we had for each other. We did survive! No money, I survive. No love, I would cry or die.
The point of my story is that I would like to share with you hopes, love, and dreams. You deserve to have your woman to love you, cherish you, appreciate you and trust you. You really do. If you are searching for love, don’t give that up. The right person will love and accept you for who you truly are. There are some women who do not care how much money you have in your bank account, how big your house is, or how big your brain or anything else is. Believe in yourself and trust your loving heart. Love will find you and you will find it.
With Love,
Pichaya
Since I was a eighteen, I have heard this quote very often from my male friends. From my personal experience, I am convinced that “No money, no honey” is not true. I have seen a millionaire who is not happy with his life and has no honey. I have seen many men who have no money, but have their honey. Their honey stay with them through good time and bad time. There is such thing call “no money, but have got honey.”
I would love to share with you about my story. This happened in 1995 in Thailand. I met with an American man who I had always dreamed of. I wanted to have an American boyfriend. There he was. We met and fell in love. Then, I asked him to marry me. This might sound strange that a woman asked a man to marry her. Anyway, I did. I asked him to marry me because I loved him and wanted him. Here was what he said “I don’t have money. I don’t have a home in America. I have nothing. I am fat. I am poor. I am old.” He was 12 years older than me. He was over 200 lbs. I said “I don’t care about what you say to yourself. I love you just the way you are. I don’t care you are poor. What I want is you.” He said “I am scared.” He was afraid that I would leave him for someone who had more money. I said “If you love me, that is more than enough. We can survive.” We had that conversation for a long time. Until one day he accepted my proposal. My love was stronger than his fear.
That was not the end of the story. As a Thai woman living in Thailand, in our culture, I must have had an approval from my parents. There was dowry required. The value of a woman depends on how much money a groom would offer to the parents of the bride. Well, my groom at the time had no money. I spoke with my parents. Of course they wanted the dowry that my groom did not have. My father said to me “I will not go to your wedding. You are not my daughter. If you are going to get married with an American, why don’t you get married with someone who had a lot of money.” My groom had nothing, but himself, and I did not care. I wanted his heart and I loved him deeply. Nothing stopped me from being with the man I loved. I decided to have our wedding at a Thai temple without the dowry and without my dad that day. My mother, grandmother, sisters, relatives, and a few friends came to our wedding though which was great.
I did the right thing because I followed my heart. I broke the rule of the Thai society. I left Thailand to the unknown to be with my husband in America. We never had a house. We rented someone’s room. We were homeless a couple times. One time while walking along a street in California, he sang this song “Even though we ain’t got money, I’m so in love with you honey. Everything will bring a chain of love…” All we had was 2 pennies in his pocket. That was it. Yes, we had 2 pennies; no home, no car, no money in the bank account, no credit card, nothing but the love that we had for each other. We did survive! No money, I survive. No love, I would cry or die.
The point of my story is that I would like to share with you hopes, love, and dreams. You deserve to have your woman to love you, cherish you, appreciate you and trust you. You really do. If you are searching for love, don’t give that up. The right person will love and accept you for who you truly are. There are some women who do not care how much money you have in your bank account, how big your house is, or how big your brain or anything else is. Believe in yourself and trust your loving heart. Love will find you and you will find it.
With Love,
Pichaya
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
My Definition of Falling in Love
Dear Wonderful Readers,
I can write a whole book about falling in love, but I will share with you about my personal experience. Falling in love is falling into karma.(There is no good nor bad karma. Everything is the way it is. Everything that comes into my life is for my spiritual growth. The Holy spirit knows best about what I need. God always sends each man to me to help me learn about myself. The key is to help me learn to love myself, love a man, and love God.) It depends on what kind of karma I have with each man. Falling in love and being in love are completely different things. They both are beautiful experiences for me.
The “falling in love stage” does not require a relationship. Being in love requires knowing the person and being in a relationship with the other person. When I fall in love, I don't even know much about the other person. I just fall. Looking back at each relationship I have had in the past with each man, I really did allow myself to fall without questioning it and without balancing my heart with my head. Here is how I felt about my husband Craig when I crazily fell for him. (I fell for him then. I fall for him now. I am still crazily falling for him and being deeply in love with him.)
Here is my definition of falling in love: It is when I can't think, feel, or see anything else, but him. When I am awake, I smile until my jaw hurt because I feel his warm presence and hear his gentle voice. When I close my eyes, I see his kind face, sexy mustache and beard, green eyes, and patient smile. I hear his gentle voice saying how much he loves and wants me. I feel his warm body beside me. I see him kiss me, touch me, and make love with me. I can't concentrate on doing anything because my mind goes wild and think too much about sex!(It is crazy!) I can't eat. I can't sleep. People say I am in glowing. People notice how happy I am.
Falling in love is a state of bliss, happiness, attachment, desire, and lust. It is like I was born again. Life is extra exciting! Everything in my world is beautiful. I walk around smiling to myself and people think that I am crazy. I feel like dancing in the sky and skipping across the rainbow and saying “I am on top of the world. I am in love.” Falling in love creates bravery and boldness. I am willing to risk anything just to be with him. I clear away all obstacles in front of me and I don't listen to anyone or allow anything to stop me from being with him. I am unstoppable like a forest fire that burns all things closed by. Whatever he does is so attractive and charming; the way he walks, the way he talks, and even the way he combs his hair. His presence makes me want to melt on the floor like butter melted by the hot sun. I feel special. I feel like a princess! I feel secure. I am on fire of desire, lust, and filled with passions. I feel complete!
The torture part is that I fall into lust. To be honest with you, I prefer to be in love...It is calmer, more peaceful, and more loving. Our connection is in a deeper level now. We are learning, growing, and evolving together. I am falling in love with Craig still. This time I am in a deeper hole and I am staying here!
One thing that I would love to share is that it takes true love, complete acceptance, absolute trust, and real forgiveness to have a successful, loving, and long lasting relationship. True love is selfless and unconditional. We learn to give what each other needs with no expectations. Complete acceptance is accepting our greatness and all of our flaws. Forgiveness is a true giving. We always forgive each other when we make mistakes. Craig and I have been through some hard times. We have ups and downs in our relationship. What makes us stay together? The answer is what I mentioned above. Also, we have the same life and relationship visions, values, and purpose.
To sum up, falling in love is a beautiful thing. The trick is to keep falling in love with the same person everyday, fall deeper, and keep the romance going!
I would like to end up with Rumi's quote.
“Let us fall in love again and scatter gold dust all over the world.”
With Love,
Pichaya
I can write a whole book about falling in love, but I will share with you about my personal experience. Falling in love is falling into karma.(There is no good nor bad karma. Everything is the way it is. Everything that comes into my life is for my spiritual growth. The Holy spirit knows best about what I need. God always sends each man to me to help me learn about myself. The key is to help me learn to love myself, love a man, and love God.) It depends on what kind of karma I have with each man. Falling in love and being in love are completely different things. They both are beautiful experiences for me.
The “falling in love stage” does not require a relationship. Being in love requires knowing the person and being in a relationship with the other person. When I fall in love, I don't even know much about the other person. I just fall. Looking back at each relationship I have had in the past with each man, I really did allow myself to fall without questioning it and without balancing my heart with my head. Here is how I felt about my husband Craig when I crazily fell for him. (I fell for him then. I fall for him now. I am still crazily falling for him and being deeply in love with him.)
Here is my definition of falling in love: It is when I can't think, feel, or see anything else, but him. When I am awake, I smile until my jaw hurt because I feel his warm presence and hear his gentle voice. When I close my eyes, I see his kind face, sexy mustache and beard, green eyes, and patient smile. I hear his gentle voice saying how much he loves and wants me. I feel his warm body beside me. I see him kiss me, touch me, and make love with me. I can't concentrate on doing anything because my mind goes wild and think too much about sex!(It is crazy!) I can't eat. I can't sleep. People say I am in glowing. People notice how happy I am.
Falling in love is a state of bliss, happiness, attachment, desire, and lust. It is like I was born again. Life is extra exciting! Everything in my world is beautiful. I walk around smiling to myself and people think that I am crazy. I feel like dancing in the sky and skipping across the rainbow and saying “I am on top of the world. I am in love.” Falling in love creates bravery and boldness. I am willing to risk anything just to be with him. I clear away all obstacles in front of me and I don't listen to anyone or allow anything to stop me from being with him. I am unstoppable like a forest fire that burns all things closed by. Whatever he does is so attractive and charming; the way he walks, the way he talks, and even the way he combs his hair. His presence makes me want to melt on the floor like butter melted by the hot sun. I feel special. I feel like a princess! I feel secure. I am on fire of desire, lust, and filled with passions. I feel complete!
The torture part is that I fall into lust. To be honest with you, I prefer to be in love...It is calmer, more peaceful, and more loving. Our connection is in a deeper level now. We are learning, growing, and evolving together. I am falling in love with Craig still. This time I am in a deeper hole and I am staying here!
One thing that I would love to share is that it takes true love, complete acceptance, absolute trust, and real forgiveness to have a successful, loving, and long lasting relationship. True love is selfless and unconditional. We learn to give what each other needs with no expectations. Complete acceptance is accepting our greatness and all of our flaws. Forgiveness is a true giving. We always forgive each other when we make mistakes. Craig and I have been through some hard times. We have ups and downs in our relationship. What makes us stay together? The answer is what I mentioned above. Also, we have the same life and relationship visions, values, and purpose.
To sum up, falling in love is a beautiful thing. The trick is to keep falling in love with the same person everyday, fall deeper, and keep the romance going!
I would like to end up with Rumi's quote.
“Let us fall in love again and scatter gold dust all over the world.”
With Love,
Pichaya
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