My Definition of Falling in Love

Dear Wonderful Readers,

I can write a whole book about falling in love, but I will share with you about my personal experience. Falling in love is falling into karma.(There is no good nor bad karma. Everything is the way it is. Everything that comes into my life is for my spiritual growth. The Holy spirit knows best about what I need. God always sends each man to me to help me learn about myself. The key is to help me learn to love myself, love a man, and love God.) It depends on what kind of karma I have with each man. Falling in love and being in love are completely different things. They both are beautiful experiences for me.

The “falling in love stage” does not require a relationship. Being in love requires knowing the person and being in a relationship with the other person. When I fall in love, I don't even know much about the other person. I just fall. Looking back at each relationship I have had in the past with each man, I really did allow myself to fall without questioning it and without balancing my heart with my head. Here is how I felt about my husband Craig when I crazily fell for him. (I fell for him then. I fall for him now. I am still crazily falling for him and being deeply in love with him.)

Here is my definition of falling in love: It is when I can't think, feel, or see anything else, but him. When I am awake, I smile until my jaw hurt because I feel his warm presence and hear his gentle voice. When I close my eyes, I see his kind face, sexy mustache and beard, green eyes, and patient smile. I hear his gentle voice saying how much he loves and wants me. I feel his warm body beside me. I see him kiss me, touch me, and make love with me. I can't concentrate on doing anything because my mind goes wild and think too much about sex!(It is crazy!) I can't eat. I can't sleep. People say I am in glowing. People notice how happy I am.

Falling in love is a state of bliss, happiness, attachment, desire, and lust. It is like I was born again. Life is extra exciting! Everything in my world is beautiful. I walk around smiling to myself and people think that I am crazy. I feel like dancing in the sky and skipping across the rainbow and saying “I am on top of the world. I am in love.” Falling in love creates bravery and boldness. I am willing to risk anything just to be with him. I clear away all obstacles in front of me and I don't listen to anyone or allow anything to stop me from being with him. I am unstoppable like a forest fire that burns all things closed by. Whatever he does is so attractive and charming; the way he walks, the way he talks, and even the way he combs his hair. His presence makes me want to melt on the floor like butter melted by the hot sun. I feel special. I feel like a princess! I feel secure. I am on fire of desire, lust, and filled with passions. I feel complete!

The torture part is that I fall into lust. To be honest with you, I prefer to be in love...It is calmer, more peaceful, and more loving. Our connection is in a deeper level now. We are learning, growing, and evolving together. I am falling in love with Craig still. This time I am in a deeper hole and I am staying here!

One thing that I would love to share is that it takes true love, complete acceptance, absolute trust, and real forgiveness to have a successful, loving, and long lasting relationship. True love is selfless and unconditional. We learn to give what each other needs with no expectations. Complete acceptance is accepting our greatness and all of our flaws. Forgiveness is a true giving. We always forgive each other when we make mistakes. Craig and I have been through some hard times. We have ups and downs in our relationship. What makes us stay together? The answer is what I mentioned above. Also, we have the same life and relationship visions, values, and purpose.

To sum up, falling in love is a beautiful thing. The trick is to keep falling in love with the same person everyday, fall deeper, and keep the romance going!

I would like to end up with Rumi's quote.
“Let us fall in love again and scatter gold dust all over the world.”

With Love,
Pichaya