Dear Wonderful Readers,
“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
~Tony Robbins
If you want to lose 10 lbs, but keep consuming sweets without exercising, how would that behavior help you achieve your goal?
If you want to find your life partner, but you keep repeating the same pattern, how would that help you find the right one?
If you want to find your dream job, but you are still staying at the same place without doing anything about it, how would that lead you to your goal?
To get the result you want, action steps must be made. People who are successful in getting what they want take actions.
I have a permission to share case studies here.
Lin strongly believes in God. She believes and feels that God arranges everything in life. She follows God's guidance in every step in life.
She asked me why she keeps attracting the wrong men in her life. Those men are not available for her. They are either married or they date other people while she dates only one man. As a result, she makes herself unavailable for other potential partners.
A few years ago, she met a man through a friend of her. Her friend introduced her to this man. They never met in person. They had a long distance relationship. They communicated through e-mails and phones. Lin gave all her heart to him while he was dating some other women. He kept telling her that he would come to meet her in person, but it never happened. Lin was in this relationship for over a year. It led her no where. Finally, she realized that it would not work because he never showed up. She decided to break up with him.
After she broke up with that man, she dated another man in her area. He was a married man. He also had a lot of issues. She decided to tell him that she wanted to be friend with him.
Next, she met another man in her area. She had been dating him for five months. Yes, she fell in love with him. Recently he just told Lin that he was unhappily married. He wants to continue having a long term relationship with Lin. So..what did Lin get herself into? She did not know from the beginning that he was married until recently. He fell in love with her too. Is it practical to be involved with a married man? What is she doing?
Another case study, John had been dating Vicki for 15 years while Vicki was dating other men. John was content with this relationship. He felt that having someone is better than having no one at all. This relationship lasted 15 years. It ended because it led John no where.
What insight do you see in these cases?
Here is what Lin and John realized after the coaching with me.
1.Lin realized that she had her pattern. She keeps attracting unavailable men because she wanted to be rescued. She did not want to be alone. She did not have a crystal, clear, and compelling vision. She does not know her relationship requirements.
2.God arranges everything, but it is still up to her to make a choice. She thanked God for sending those men to her. She realized that she needed to learn important lessons; discrimination, standing up for herself, boundaries, communication skills, being the chooser, self love, etc.
3.John was being a person to be chosen. He stayed in his comfort zone without taking any risks to find an ideal relationship. It was better to be with someone than being alone.
If you want something, you need to put an effort into it. Asking God, wishing, dreaming, having vision, and goals are great steps. If you really want the result, there must be actions steps.
Here are some steps to have the relationship you want. I invite you to ask yourself the following questions.
1.What do I really want?
2.Why do I want it? (This must be crystal, clear, and compelling. What are my good reasons?)
3.Imagine having the relationship I want, what would that look like, feel like, and be like?
4.What is stopping me from moving forward? (Fears of rejection, being hurt, abandonment, not good enough, not worhtly of love, failure, success, unknown, etc.)
5.What would be the pay off if I am staying at the same place?
6.What change do I need to make in order to have the relationship I want? (This could be old attitude, beliefs, letting go of fears, improving relationship skills, etc.)
7.What one small step can I take today in order to achieve my goal?
8.What am I committing in doing?
After you ask yourself those question, then, I invite you to take one small change/ action to lead you to where you want to go. Start by taking your first small step. You have the power to change and create a love relationship that you deserve.
You can do it! I believe in you! Go for it!
With Love,
Pichaya
Monday, October 17, 2011
Sunday, July 17, 2011
How to Get What You Want
Dear Wonderful Readers,
What is your biggest dream?
“If you can dream it, you can do it.”~Walt Disney
I would like to share a story with you.
Once there was a little seven years old Thai girl who dreamed of living in the USA. People laughed at her when she shared her dreams because it was ridiculous to others. She was growing up with poverty. Sometime she did not even have food to eat. She grew up starving. There was no way that the dream of that little girl would come true from other people's perspective. Nothing stopped that little girl to keep on dreaming. When she was 18, she kept dreaming that one day she could be able to speak English so that she could meet with an American man. People around her looked down on her ability to graduate from college. Nothing stopped that young, determined woman. She studied English in college and graduated within three and a half year. Her dream was to be able to speak English so that one day she could meet with her dream man and be able to communicate. When she was 25, she met an American man. She fell in love with him. They got married, had two beautiful children and lived happily ever after until he passed away five years after marriage. (He died 10 years ago and left her with 2 small children...)
The girl in this story was me. My point of telling you this story was to encourage you to dream big. Don't worry about what other people think of you. Don't worry about how ridiculous your dream is. Don't worry about how you are going to achieve it. The most important key is to really know what you truly want, believe in yourself, keep dreaming, focus on what you want, and take actions. The universe will respond to what you. You have to be very clear, specific, determined, and focused.
If you want to find your Ideal Life Partner, you will find that special someone. When you look for him/ her, that person is also searching for you!
The following steps can be applied in any area of your life. It works for me and many people. I get what I want; husband, kids, home, car, job, and friendship. If this can happen to me, it can happen to you too!
Here are some tips on getting what you want.
1.Be crystal clear and specific for what you want
2.Let go of your limiting beliefs
3.Dream big
4.Set Goals
5.Take actions
6.Believe in yourself
7.Be determined and focused on your goal
8.Be detached from the outcome (Focus on your goal. Trust the Divine Spirit to bring you for what you need. If you don't get what you want, it means that it is not meant to be for you. Let it go. Set another goal. There is someone or something greater and the best is yet to come your way!)
9.Enjoy the process
10.Expect miracles!
Here are some inquiries for you:
1.What is your biggest dream right now; dream job, home, place to live, weight, partner, etc.?
2.What is stopping you from getting what you want?
3.What is your action plan?
4.Who are you being? Are you being positive or negative? Are you being optimistic or pessimistic? Are you being motivated or discouraged?
5.What attitude are you having?
6.How committed are you to pursue your dream?
7.What is your next small step to do in order for you to achieve what you want?
Have a great week!
Until next time...
Love,
Pichaya
What is your biggest dream?
“If you can dream it, you can do it.”~Walt Disney
I would like to share a story with you.
Once there was a little seven years old Thai girl who dreamed of living in the USA. People laughed at her when she shared her dreams because it was ridiculous to others. She was growing up with poverty. Sometime she did not even have food to eat. She grew up starving. There was no way that the dream of that little girl would come true from other people's perspective. Nothing stopped that little girl to keep on dreaming. When she was 18, she kept dreaming that one day she could be able to speak English so that she could meet with an American man. People around her looked down on her ability to graduate from college. Nothing stopped that young, determined woman. She studied English in college and graduated within three and a half year. Her dream was to be able to speak English so that one day she could meet with her dream man and be able to communicate. When she was 25, she met an American man. She fell in love with him. They got married, had two beautiful children and lived happily ever after until he passed away five years after marriage. (He died 10 years ago and left her with 2 small children...)
The girl in this story was me. My point of telling you this story was to encourage you to dream big. Don't worry about what other people think of you. Don't worry about how ridiculous your dream is. Don't worry about how you are going to achieve it. The most important key is to really know what you truly want, believe in yourself, keep dreaming, focus on what you want, and take actions. The universe will respond to what you. You have to be very clear, specific, determined, and focused.
If you want to find your Ideal Life Partner, you will find that special someone. When you look for him/ her, that person is also searching for you!
The following steps can be applied in any area of your life. It works for me and many people. I get what I want; husband, kids, home, car, job, and friendship. If this can happen to me, it can happen to you too!
Here are some tips on getting what you want.
1.Be crystal clear and specific for what you want
2.Let go of your limiting beliefs
3.Dream big
4.Set Goals
5.Take actions
6.Believe in yourself
7.Be determined and focused on your goal
8.Be detached from the outcome (Focus on your goal. Trust the Divine Spirit to bring you for what you need. If you don't get what you want, it means that it is not meant to be for you. Let it go. Set another goal. There is someone or something greater and the best is yet to come your way!)
9.Enjoy the process
10.Expect miracles!
Here are some inquiries for you:
1.What is your biggest dream right now; dream job, home, place to live, weight, partner, etc.?
2.What is stopping you from getting what you want?
3.What is your action plan?
4.Who are you being? Are you being positive or negative? Are you being optimistic or pessimistic? Are you being motivated or discouraged?
5.What attitude are you having?
6.How committed are you to pursue your dream?
7.What is your next small step to do in order for you to achieve what you want?
Have a great week!
Until next time...
Love,
Pichaya
"No Money, No Honey" Is That True?
Dear Wonderful Readers,
Since I was a eighteen, I have heard this quote very often from my male friends. From my personal experience, I am convinced that “No money, no honey” is not true. I have seen a millionaire who is not happy with his life and has no honey. I have seen many men who have no money, but have their honey. Their honey stay with them through good time and bad time. There is such thing call “no money, but have got honey.”
I would love to share with you about my story. This happened in 1995 in Thailand. I met with an American man who I had always dreamed of. I wanted to have an American boyfriend. There he was. We met and fell in love. Then, I asked him to marry me. This might sound strange that a woman asked a man to marry her. Anyway, I did. I asked him to marry me because I loved him and wanted him. Here was what he said “I don’t have money. I don’t have a home in America. I have nothing. I am fat. I am poor. I am old.” He was 12 years older than me. He was over 200 lbs. I said “I don’t care about what you say to yourself. I love you just the way you are. I don’t care you are poor. What I want is you.” He said “I am scared.” He was afraid that I would leave him for someone who had more money. I said “If you love me, that is more than enough. We can survive.” We had that conversation for a long time. Until one day he accepted my proposal. My love was stronger than his fear.
That was not the end of the story. As a Thai woman living in Thailand, in our culture, I must have had an approval from my parents. There was dowry required. The value of a woman depends on how much money a groom would offer to the parents of the bride. Well, my groom at the time had no money. I spoke with my parents. Of course they wanted the dowry that my groom did not have. My father said to me “I will not go to your wedding. You are not my daughter. If you are going to get married with an American, why don’t you get married with someone who had a lot of money.” My groom had nothing, but himself, and I did not care. I wanted his heart and I loved him deeply. Nothing stopped me from being with the man I loved. I decided to have our wedding at a Thai temple without the dowry and without my dad that day. My mother, grandmother, sisters, relatives, and a few friends came to our wedding though which was great.
I did the right thing because I followed my heart. I broke the rule of the Thai society. I left Thailand to the unknown to be with my husband in America. We never had a house. We rented someone’s room. We were homeless a couple times. One time while walking along a street in California, he sang this song “Even though we ain’t got money, I’m so in love with you honey. Everything will bring a chain of love…” All we had was 2 pennies in his pocket. That was it. Yes, we had 2 pennies; no home, no car, no money in the bank account, no credit card, nothing but the love that we had for each other. We did survive! No money, I survive. No love, I would cry or die.
The point of my story is that I would like to share with you hopes, love, and dreams. You deserve to have your woman to love you, cherish you, appreciate you and trust you. You really do. If you are searching for love, don’t give that up. The right person will love and accept you for who you truly are. There are some women who do not care how much money you have in your bank account, how big your house is, or how big your brain or anything else is. Believe in yourself and trust your loving heart. Love will find you and you will find it.
With Love,
Pichaya
Since I was a eighteen, I have heard this quote very often from my male friends. From my personal experience, I am convinced that “No money, no honey” is not true. I have seen a millionaire who is not happy with his life and has no honey. I have seen many men who have no money, but have their honey. Their honey stay with them through good time and bad time. There is such thing call “no money, but have got honey.”
I would love to share with you about my story. This happened in 1995 in Thailand. I met with an American man who I had always dreamed of. I wanted to have an American boyfriend. There he was. We met and fell in love. Then, I asked him to marry me. This might sound strange that a woman asked a man to marry her. Anyway, I did. I asked him to marry me because I loved him and wanted him. Here was what he said “I don’t have money. I don’t have a home in America. I have nothing. I am fat. I am poor. I am old.” He was 12 years older than me. He was over 200 lbs. I said “I don’t care about what you say to yourself. I love you just the way you are. I don’t care you are poor. What I want is you.” He said “I am scared.” He was afraid that I would leave him for someone who had more money. I said “If you love me, that is more than enough. We can survive.” We had that conversation for a long time. Until one day he accepted my proposal. My love was stronger than his fear.
That was not the end of the story. As a Thai woman living in Thailand, in our culture, I must have had an approval from my parents. There was dowry required. The value of a woman depends on how much money a groom would offer to the parents of the bride. Well, my groom at the time had no money. I spoke with my parents. Of course they wanted the dowry that my groom did not have. My father said to me “I will not go to your wedding. You are not my daughter. If you are going to get married with an American, why don’t you get married with someone who had a lot of money.” My groom had nothing, but himself, and I did not care. I wanted his heart and I loved him deeply. Nothing stopped me from being with the man I loved. I decided to have our wedding at a Thai temple without the dowry and without my dad that day. My mother, grandmother, sisters, relatives, and a few friends came to our wedding though which was great.
I did the right thing because I followed my heart. I broke the rule of the Thai society. I left Thailand to the unknown to be with my husband in America. We never had a house. We rented someone’s room. We were homeless a couple times. One time while walking along a street in California, he sang this song “Even though we ain’t got money, I’m so in love with you honey. Everything will bring a chain of love…” All we had was 2 pennies in his pocket. That was it. Yes, we had 2 pennies; no home, no car, no money in the bank account, no credit card, nothing but the love that we had for each other. We did survive! No money, I survive. No love, I would cry or die.
The point of my story is that I would like to share with you hopes, love, and dreams. You deserve to have your woman to love you, cherish you, appreciate you and trust you. You really do. If you are searching for love, don’t give that up. The right person will love and accept you for who you truly are. There are some women who do not care how much money you have in your bank account, how big your house is, or how big your brain or anything else is. Believe in yourself and trust your loving heart. Love will find you and you will find it.
With Love,
Pichaya
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
My Definition of Falling in Love
Dear Wonderful Readers,
I can write a whole book about falling in love, but I will share with you about my personal experience. Falling in love is falling into karma.(There is no good nor bad karma. Everything is the way it is. Everything that comes into my life is for my spiritual growth. The Holy spirit knows best about what I need. God always sends each man to me to help me learn about myself. The key is to help me learn to love myself, love a man, and love God.) It depends on what kind of karma I have with each man. Falling in love and being in love are completely different things. They both are beautiful experiences for me.
The “falling in love stage” does not require a relationship. Being in love requires knowing the person and being in a relationship with the other person. When I fall in love, I don't even know much about the other person. I just fall. Looking back at each relationship I have had in the past with each man, I really did allow myself to fall without questioning it and without balancing my heart with my head. Here is how I felt about my husband Craig when I crazily fell for him. (I fell for him then. I fall for him now. I am still crazily falling for him and being deeply in love with him.)
Here is my definition of falling in love: It is when I can't think, feel, or see anything else, but him. When I am awake, I smile until my jaw hurt because I feel his warm presence and hear his gentle voice. When I close my eyes, I see his kind face, sexy mustache and beard, green eyes, and patient smile. I hear his gentle voice saying how much he loves and wants me. I feel his warm body beside me. I see him kiss me, touch me, and make love with me. I can't concentrate on doing anything because my mind goes wild and think too much about sex!(It is crazy!) I can't eat. I can't sleep. People say I am in glowing. People notice how happy I am.
Falling in love is a state of bliss, happiness, attachment, desire, and lust. It is like I was born again. Life is extra exciting! Everything in my world is beautiful. I walk around smiling to myself and people think that I am crazy. I feel like dancing in the sky and skipping across the rainbow and saying “I am on top of the world. I am in love.” Falling in love creates bravery and boldness. I am willing to risk anything just to be with him. I clear away all obstacles in front of me and I don't listen to anyone or allow anything to stop me from being with him. I am unstoppable like a forest fire that burns all things closed by. Whatever he does is so attractive and charming; the way he walks, the way he talks, and even the way he combs his hair. His presence makes me want to melt on the floor like butter melted by the hot sun. I feel special. I feel like a princess! I feel secure. I am on fire of desire, lust, and filled with passions. I feel complete!
The torture part is that I fall into lust. To be honest with you, I prefer to be in love...It is calmer, more peaceful, and more loving. Our connection is in a deeper level now. We are learning, growing, and evolving together. I am falling in love with Craig still. This time I am in a deeper hole and I am staying here!
One thing that I would love to share is that it takes true love, complete acceptance, absolute trust, and real forgiveness to have a successful, loving, and long lasting relationship. True love is selfless and unconditional. We learn to give what each other needs with no expectations. Complete acceptance is accepting our greatness and all of our flaws. Forgiveness is a true giving. We always forgive each other when we make mistakes. Craig and I have been through some hard times. We have ups and downs in our relationship. What makes us stay together? The answer is what I mentioned above. Also, we have the same life and relationship visions, values, and purpose.
To sum up, falling in love is a beautiful thing. The trick is to keep falling in love with the same person everyday, fall deeper, and keep the romance going!
I would like to end up with Rumi's quote.
“Let us fall in love again and scatter gold dust all over the world.”
With Love,
Pichaya
I can write a whole book about falling in love, but I will share with you about my personal experience. Falling in love is falling into karma.(There is no good nor bad karma. Everything is the way it is. Everything that comes into my life is for my spiritual growth. The Holy spirit knows best about what I need. God always sends each man to me to help me learn about myself. The key is to help me learn to love myself, love a man, and love God.) It depends on what kind of karma I have with each man. Falling in love and being in love are completely different things. They both are beautiful experiences for me.
The “falling in love stage” does not require a relationship. Being in love requires knowing the person and being in a relationship with the other person. When I fall in love, I don't even know much about the other person. I just fall. Looking back at each relationship I have had in the past with each man, I really did allow myself to fall without questioning it and without balancing my heart with my head. Here is how I felt about my husband Craig when I crazily fell for him. (I fell for him then. I fall for him now. I am still crazily falling for him and being deeply in love with him.)
Here is my definition of falling in love: It is when I can't think, feel, or see anything else, but him. When I am awake, I smile until my jaw hurt because I feel his warm presence and hear his gentle voice. When I close my eyes, I see his kind face, sexy mustache and beard, green eyes, and patient smile. I hear his gentle voice saying how much he loves and wants me. I feel his warm body beside me. I see him kiss me, touch me, and make love with me. I can't concentrate on doing anything because my mind goes wild and think too much about sex!(It is crazy!) I can't eat. I can't sleep. People say I am in glowing. People notice how happy I am.
Falling in love is a state of bliss, happiness, attachment, desire, and lust. It is like I was born again. Life is extra exciting! Everything in my world is beautiful. I walk around smiling to myself and people think that I am crazy. I feel like dancing in the sky and skipping across the rainbow and saying “I am on top of the world. I am in love.” Falling in love creates bravery and boldness. I am willing to risk anything just to be with him. I clear away all obstacles in front of me and I don't listen to anyone or allow anything to stop me from being with him. I am unstoppable like a forest fire that burns all things closed by. Whatever he does is so attractive and charming; the way he walks, the way he talks, and even the way he combs his hair. His presence makes me want to melt on the floor like butter melted by the hot sun. I feel special. I feel like a princess! I feel secure. I am on fire of desire, lust, and filled with passions. I feel complete!
The torture part is that I fall into lust. To be honest with you, I prefer to be in love...It is calmer, more peaceful, and more loving. Our connection is in a deeper level now. We are learning, growing, and evolving together. I am falling in love with Craig still. This time I am in a deeper hole and I am staying here!
One thing that I would love to share is that it takes true love, complete acceptance, absolute trust, and real forgiveness to have a successful, loving, and long lasting relationship. True love is selfless and unconditional. We learn to give what each other needs with no expectations. Complete acceptance is accepting our greatness and all of our flaws. Forgiveness is a true giving. We always forgive each other when we make mistakes. Craig and I have been through some hard times. We have ups and downs in our relationship. What makes us stay together? The answer is what I mentioned above. Also, we have the same life and relationship visions, values, and purpose.
To sum up, falling in love is a beautiful thing. The trick is to keep falling in love with the same person everyday, fall deeper, and keep the romance going!
I would like to end up with Rumi's quote.
“Let us fall in love again and scatter gold dust all over the world.”
With Love,
Pichaya
Sunday, January 30, 2011
9 Ways to Give from the Heart
Dear Readers,
Giving from the heart
Giving from the heart has no strings attached. It has no conditions. When you give freely without expectation, your heart expands for more love to enter. As a result you have more love to give. When you give more, it makes you happy. The more you give, the more you receive. You feel fulfilled with love, joy, and happiness.
There are 9 simple ways to give from the heart.
1.Your Smile
You have a unique and attractive smile! Your smile can light up someone's day. If you go out in public whether it is a grocery store, post office, or a mall, practice being conscious and giving a smile to a clerk or someone you feel the call to do so. If you go for a walk and see people pass by, give a smile to those people. It does not matter if the other people will give you a smile back. It is not the point. The point is giving without expectation. You indeed give that happiness to yourself because you feel happy inside when you give.
2.Your Touch
Give your loved ones your personal touch by holding, hugging, or cuddling. Pet your dog or cat. Give your friends a hug. Hugging feels good! People love to be loved and held. Even pets love to be touched. Giving your gentle and sweet touch to your loved ones or your pets will make both givers and receivers happy.
3.Your Kind Words or Compliments
People like compliments. Saying kind words and giving compliments make people feel good. Practice giving compliments and saying kind words everyday. Find something that you can authentically give compliments to another person whether it is about physical appearance, actions, or even a smile. You will feel the power of compliments.
4.Your Attention
Set aside sometime to give your full attention to people you talk to. Be fully present with your spouse, children, parents, friends, or neighbors. When you speak with the other person, make eye contacts and look at the other person with love. Listen deeply to spoken and unspoken words. Listen with love and without judgment or adding your own opinion. If you think you are right about things, practice allowing the other person to be without judging him/her. Just listen from the heart. Pay full attention while speaking by making eye contact and listening deeply.
5. Your Time
Time is precious. There is time for everything. There is time to be with yourself. There is also time for you to be with others and give yourself to others. You can give your time away by listening to your friend's problems or writing notes, e-mails to your friends or loved ones or calling your friends to say “hi” or simply saying “Thinking of you”.
You can give your time by listening to someone's troubles. When someone calls you up and wants to talk, you can listen to someone with love. People want to be heard. Just listen attentively and deeply.
6.Your Knowledge
You can give away your knowledge by sharing what you have learned in life or some information that might benefit others. Sharing your wisdom with others is a great gift that you can give. People will appreciate your knowledge.
7.Your Thanks
Give thanks to life and everyone you are in contact with. Express your gratitude in a loving way. Tell people that you appreciate them for being in your life. Think of anything that you appreciate them for and express it by saying or writing it. Send e-mail, texting, letters, or give them a call to express your gratitude toward the other person. Let people know how you feel about them. Say “Thank You” for being in your life and helping you in some ways.
8.Your Kindness
Be kind to everybody. Opening a door for someone is kind. Helping people when they need help is kind. Being tolerant, and considerate is kind. Be kind in thoughts, words, and actions. What does being “kind” mean to you? Being kind makes you feel at peace with yourself. As a result, you bring peace to those around you.
9.Your Love
Everybody needs love. You can start giving love unconditionally to yourself first. Love yourself greatly. Respect, accept, and forgive yourself for all the mistakes you make. Once you can give love to yourself unconditionally, it will be easy for you to love others that way. If you love someone, then express it in thoughts, words, and action. Say “I love you.” to your loved ones. Actions sometime are not enough. Words of love need to be heard too.
When you give from the heart, you feel so much joy and happy within yourself. No one can take this happiness away from you.
Everything starts within your heart. It is very important that you give all the above to yourself first. It has to be given unconditionally. When you love yourself unconditionally, you are more willing to do the same to others.
When you give with love and detach from the outcome, you benefit from it. The result is that you find peace, love, harmony, and happiness within your loving heart. You have earned that blissful feeling by giving yourself away. You become happier and live a purposeful life.
With Love and Gratitude,
Pichaya
Giving from the heart
Giving from the heart has no strings attached. It has no conditions. When you give freely without expectation, your heart expands for more love to enter. As a result you have more love to give. When you give more, it makes you happy. The more you give, the more you receive. You feel fulfilled with love, joy, and happiness.
There are 9 simple ways to give from the heart.
1.Your Smile
You have a unique and attractive smile! Your smile can light up someone's day. If you go out in public whether it is a grocery store, post office, or a mall, practice being conscious and giving a smile to a clerk or someone you feel the call to do so. If you go for a walk and see people pass by, give a smile to those people. It does not matter if the other people will give you a smile back. It is not the point. The point is giving without expectation. You indeed give that happiness to yourself because you feel happy inside when you give.
2.Your Touch
Give your loved ones your personal touch by holding, hugging, or cuddling. Pet your dog or cat. Give your friends a hug. Hugging feels good! People love to be loved and held. Even pets love to be touched. Giving your gentle and sweet touch to your loved ones or your pets will make both givers and receivers happy.
3.Your Kind Words or Compliments
People like compliments. Saying kind words and giving compliments make people feel good. Practice giving compliments and saying kind words everyday. Find something that you can authentically give compliments to another person whether it is about physical appearance, actions, or even a smile. You will feel the power of compliments.
4.Your Attention
Set aside sometime to give your full attention to people you talk to. Be fully present with your spouse, children, parents, friends, or neighbors. When you speak with the other person, make eye contacts and look at the other person with love. Listen deeply to spoken and unspoken words. Listen with love and without judgment or adding your own opinion. If you think you are right about things, practice allowing the other person to be without judging him/her. Just listen from the heart. Pay full attention while speaking by making eye contact and listening deeply.
5. Your Time
Time is precious. There is time for everything. There is time to be with yourself. There is also time for you to be with others and give yourself to others. You can give your time away by listening to your friend's problems or writing notes, e-mails to your friends or loved ones or calling your friends to say “hi” or simply saying “Thinking of you”.
You can give your time by listening to someone's troubles. When someone calls you up and wants to talk, you can listen to someone with love. People want to be heard. Just listen attentively and deeply.
6.Your Knowledge
You can give away your knowledge by sharing what you have learned in life or some information that might benefit others. Sharing your wisdom with others is a great gift that you can give. People will appreciate your knowledge.
7.Your Thanks
Give thanks to life and everyone you are in contact with. Express your gratitude in a loving way. Tell people that you appreciate them for being in your life. Think of anything that you appreciate them for and express it by saying or writing it. Send e-mail, texting, letters, or give them a call to express your gratitude toward the other person. Let people know how you feel about them. Say “Thank You” for being in your life and helping you in some ways.
8.Your Kindness
Be kind to everybody. Opening a door for someone is kind. Helping people when they need help is kind. Being tolerant, and considerate is kind. Be kind in thoughts, words, and actions. What does being “kind” mean to you? Being kind makes you feel at peace with yourself. As a result, you bring peace to those around you.
9.Your Love
Everybody needs love. You can start giving love unconditionally to yourself first. Love yourself greatly. Respect, accept, and forgive yourself for all the mistakes you make. Once you can give love to yourself unconditionally, it will be easy for you to love others that way. If you love someone, then express it in thoughts, words, and action. Say “I love you.” to your loved ones. Actions sometime are not enough. Words of love need to be heard too.
When you give from the heart, you feel so much joy and happy within yourself. No one can take this happiness away from you.
Everything starts within your heart. It is very important that you give all the above to yourself first. It has to be given unconditionally. When you love yourself unconditionally, you are more willing to do the same to others.
When you give with love and detach from the outcome, you benefit from it. The result is that you find peace, love, harmony, and happiness within your loving heart. You have earned that blissful feeling by giving yourself away. You become happier and live a purposeful life.
With Love and Gratitude,
Pichaya
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